(let's see how much we can write in a response before we are forced out the door for work)
The lines between 'healthy' and 'unhealthy' relationships are definitely different from a typical singlet couple versus a plural, fictionkind scenario. But it's also more freeing to not have to be subjected to just one set of romance rules! Once that societal norm bullshit is broken down then it feels like anything is possible. There's beauty in that kind of existence, which y'all have clearly found!
(Problematic representation aside--why are the straights allowed to have theirs but us queer folk have to be so strict on making sure ours are 'acceptable'? Even more so when it's just your life, things that happened to you.)
The agency push and pull is something fascinating to think about, but we can also see where the distress comes from in an existential way. (How much of you is you? How much control over yourself do you have? Then again, how much control over ourselves does anyone have? How much is simply needing to accept what is?)
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Date: 2025-07-17 12:25 pm (UTC)(let's see how much we can write in a response before we are forced out the door for work)The lines between 'healthy' and 'unhealthy' relationships are definitely different from a typical singlet couple versus a plural, fictionkind scenario. But it's also more freeing to not have to be subjected to just one set of romance rules! Once that societal norm bullshit is broken down then it feels like anything is possible. There's beauty in that kind of existence, which y'all have clearly found!
(Problematic representation aside--why are the straights allowed to have theirs but us queer folk have to be so strict on making sure ours are 'acceptable'? Even more so when it's just your life, things that happened to you.)
The agency push and pull is something fascinating to think about, but we can also see where the distress comes from in an existential way. (How much of you is you? How much control over yourself do you have? Then again, how much control over ourselves does anyone have? How much is simply needing to accept what is?)
-G/B/Y