Exactly! Just because it's abnormal (or dare we say deviant) doesn't mean it's bad. (Bad by whose standards, anyway? Why do they think it's bad? Does it hurt more to follow their standards or your own? The awesome thing about being queer is how we really get to delve deep into those questions where many other people don't break the surface. Which isn't to say that we're inherently 'better' than them by any means, just that our life experiences forced us to dig where they didn't have to think about it.)
Right? It feels like we should be over that in the year 2025 but I guess not.
I couldn't do that because the past had already happened to me, I'd already been hurt before I got here, and I couldn't just retcon the majority of my life out into something nicer.
Makes us think of two things:
Nature of Nature's Art. Vagueish ending spoilers for the story labeled Syconium: it was...controversial for numerous reasons, and one of those was that the author expressed his view in the comments that it's better to have never suffered at all, and to erase that suffering completely, than to experience suffering and grow from it.
(There was a hard-hitting kinda unpleasant and raw comic we read once about a writer talking to a character about why said author was going to put that character through Some Shit...we'll look for it.)
And then there's your perspective, it already happened. A discussion in general we might write an essay on some day, but for the here and now, it's totally valid to have gone through or experienced some shit and not want to erase it if it's meaningful to you in some way. You can make that meaning for yourself, now that you have that agency in this life. TL;DR shit's complicated! Real life's complicated.
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Right? It feels like we should be over that in the year 2025 but I guess not.
Makes us think of two things:
- Nature of Nature's Art. Vagueish ending spoilers for the story labeled Syconium: it was...controversial for numerous reasons, and one of those was that the author expressed his view in the comments that it's better to have never suffered at all, and to erase that suffering completely, than to experience suffering and grow from it.
- the panel from this past Centaurus Festival on rewriting one's own canon.
- (There was a hard-hitting kinda unpleasant and raw comic we read once about a writer talking to a character about why said author was going to put that character through Some Shit...we'll look for it.)
And then there's your perspective, it already happened. A discussion in general we might write an essay on some day, but for the here and now, it's totally valid to have gone through or experienced some shit and not want to erase it if it's meaningful to you in some way. You can make that meaning for yourself, now that you have that agency in this life. TL;DR shit's complicated! Real life's complicated.-G/Y/E